Show Notes

In this week’s episode, I spoke with Jim Van Allan, vice president of schools and a professional speaker of over 12 years. Jim also hosts a podcast, Communicate to Motivate. In this episode, Jim shares his experience being a public speaker as an introvert who struggles with social anxiety. He shares the importance of self-awareness, effective communication skills, managing anxiety-provoking social situations, and the power of positive self-talk. This is an excellent episode that I know anybody struggling with anxiety and/or social anxiety will find helpful!

In this episode you will learn:

  • Jim’s experience being a public speaker as an introvert struggling with social anxiety
  • How introverts vs. extroverts interact differently in social situations
  • Why introverts need to actively work on communication skills
  • How self-awareness is the key to effective communication
  • How having a plan can help you prepare mentally for a social situation
  • Strategies to use to communicate in social situations
  • Tips to jumpstart a conversation when coping with anxiety
  • How to reframe the way you view anxiety and accepting yourself as you are
  • The difference between listening and hearing
  • Specific tips for how to be a good communicator
  • Why sharing your own experiences and stories when listening to somebody isn’t always helpful
  • How to communicate in meetings as an introvert in both in-person and virtual meetings
  • How Jim copes with the nervousness that comes up before public speaking engagements
  • The power of positive self-talk to communicate with yourself

Where you can find Jim:

Communicate to Motivate Podcast:


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