Nice to Meet You, im Tati!
High-Functioning
Anxiety Coach
Therapist
Introvert
High-achiever
Are you ready to let go of the pressure you put on yourself and start living a life of calm and balance?
You’ve always pushed through life with high expectations for yourself. You need to be performing at 100% all the time, and if you’re not, you feel like it’s not good enough.
Let’s be real… you always feel like it’s not good enough, and you’re sick of it.
You stare at your to-do list that is a million miles long and wonder if you’ll ever be able to complete it all.
The idea of rest and relaxation are difficult to stomach. When you sit down to relax, your mind just races with all of the things you think you should be doing.
You wish there was a better way of living.
I understand how you feel.
“My life is a constant to-do list running through my head, in which I feel as though I can’t relax until everything is done- which is never. I feel guilty for relaxing because there is more to be done. The cycle is never-ending.”
This is a literal quote from my journal a few years ago when I was at one of my most difficult points of struggling with high-functioning anxiety.
I remember sitting in the wood-paneled office at my corner desk as a therapist at an agency. I closed my eyes and took a few deep breaths before my next client session was scheduled. My heart was pounding and all the pressure of needing to be the best was placed upon me like an elephant standing on my chest.
I scanned the appointments on my daily planner relentlessly.
Scanning my planner and rehearsing things mentally gave me a sense of control. Thrusting myself headfirst into my work gave me a sense of purpose and direction.
Because that was what I had control over. I knew that if I tried my hardest, at least I wouldn’t be able to blame myself for not doing enough and have to deal with the guilt.
Just keep going… “but I can’t”
“I totally screwed up that session”
“I have no idea what I’m doing”
“I’m not good enough”
“I’m not prepared enough”
The thoughts of self-doubt would always come crashing over me like waves knocking me off my feet.
I pushed through the anxiety to move my way up in my career.
I thought if I just studied and prepared more, then I would know enough and I would be good enough.
It was this way for years. Working hard, pushing myself harder, sacrificing self-care, and moving up in my career.
This is what you’re supposed to do, right? It helped me get ahead in the past, so I must be doing something right.
Until it was too much.
This way of living wasn't sustainable
I remember driving my car home and getting a call from somebody at work. It wasn’t a huge request, but there was something inside me that just couldn’t handle the stress.
It was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
The thoughts of overwhelm and frustration came into my head….
“It’s never enough”
“I’m doing so much but it’s still not enough.”
“I can’t take this anymore…..”
After I hung up the phone, I started crying and it was at this point I realized: It’s not worth it.
Yes, part of it was the job wasn’t the best fit for me. But the bigger part was ME.
I wasn’t putting myself first, and I was presenting a calm and successful picture on the outside, but on the inside I was full of doubt, anxiety, fear, and insecurity.
This was only the beginning of my journey to overcoming my high-functioning anxiety.
And it wasn’t an easy one…
I learned how to become an entrepreneur (the path I set on before I officially decided to quit my job) while facing my high-functioning anxiety head on.
I had to learn how to STOP doubting myself all the time, it was only holding me back. How to truly overcome my fear and anxiety.
And most importantly of all, I had to learn how to finally start being kind to myself and stop putting so much DAMN pressure on myself.
The process has been challenging, I can assure you.
But the absolute BEST part is that I realized I can be kind to myself and still be the high-achiever I am.
You see, I had this false belief that I had to be hard on myself to be successful… but I now realize that just made my anxiety WORSE. It just made me feel WORSE. And it just made the journey a MISERABLE one.
My freedom from high-functioning anxiety has allowed my confidence and authenticity to bloom.
Rather than hiding in the dark and fearing that it’s never good enough, feeling like I just need to get to the NEXT step and THEN I’ll be happy… I’m happy right now.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not happy 100% of the time, because nobody is.
But the real difference is that instead of hiding behind my laptop overthinking and doubting every decision I make… spending 30 minutes overthinking an Instagram post that doesn’t mean much in the grand scheme of things…
I wake up without an alarm and start my day with ease. I don’t run on “shoulds.” When I feel like starting the day with reading a chapter from the book I’m loving, I do it.
I feel confident and grounded while I meet with my therapy & coaching clients, and I focus on taking intentional, recharging breaks throughout my day to sit in my bean bag chair and read, go for a walk around the block, or enjoy an episode from my favorite show (at the moment it’s Community).
I am focused on being present and compassionate towards myself, and that looks like:
- focusing on the present moment
- accepting and processing my emotions
- and focusing on empowering beliefs rather than my old beliefs of “hustle” “busyness” and “I’m not allowed to take breaks.”
It has taken a while to break through these old, washed up beliefs, but it has been so incredibly rewarding.
I know there’s a better way to live rather than allowing high-functioning anxiety to consume your life, and that’s why I’m so incredibly passionate about helping you do the same.
I want you to know and truly FEEL how much you deserve to take care of your personal needs and your professional successes at the same time.
I want you to understand the power of CALM and BALANCE.
I am so passionate about the fact that living a life of balance allows you to excel in all aspects, rather than driving yourself into the ground for the “appearance of success,” while on the inside you are suffering.
If living a life of CALM and BALANCE sounds like the kind of life you want for yourself…
I invite you to work with me so I can show you the way.
Not only have I traveled this path myself, but I have helped many clients and students do the same, and maybe you can be next.
Get To Know | Tati
Education: Master of Arts in Mental Health Counseling
Experience: 10 years experience in the field of mental health & self-improvement; thousands of hours working 1:1 with clients
Techniques: Mindfulness, self-compassion, productivity, energy management, anxiety & stress management
Best Advice: Accept yourself exactly as you are and you will grow
Describe yourself in one Word: Ambitious
Hobbies: Crocheting, playing piano, being creative
Live a calm and balanced life on your terms
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High-functioning anxiety isn’t “just the way you are.” When you understand how you are getting in your own way, then it becomes easier to live a life in alignment with your needs and values.
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